I was reading an article on PsychCentral.com, that covered the infamous topic of: Self Sabotage. I started Google’ing this topic after watching a webinar of one of my mentors, Nicole Cooper. now I have heard her throw around this term plenty of times but I never really wrapped my head around the concept of it. You must imagine my surprise when I discovered that not only was aware of this behavior, but it was a “disorder” essentially, subconsciously took over my life.
What is Self-Sabotage?
There are several definitions of the word sabotage, but I think that this one is best suited for this topic.
Sabotage: any undermining of a cause
So when referring to yourself, using this definition, self sabotage would mean the undermining of YOUR CAUSE.
Okay, now let’s dig deeper.
What does undermining mean?
Undermine: to attack by indirect, secret, or underhand means; attempt to subvert by stealth.
So to participate in self-sabotage, means that you are: Indirectly, secretly, UNCONSCIOUSLY attacking yourself, your life, your destiny.
Wow, right! That definition is pretty much spot on when you think about it. More often times then not we are self sabotaging ourselves by the way that we think and by the things that we do.
But what is even more devastating are the things that we DON’T DO.
All of the things that we think about and all of the things that we know we can do but just simply don’t take action.
Imagine you are a long distance runner preparing for the Olympic race and you know that they can out-run their opponent,
but as soon as the gun goes off..
you do NOTHING.
You imagine life as a winner and it scares you.
You are scared to win…
You may think that you are not worthy of winning, or no one will like you if you are a winner.
Is this what you are thinking?
Or maybe not. What I can tell you, is that this is what I have thought about over and over again. I see myself winning.
I see myself empowering people. I see myself becoming a millionaire and I FREEZE!
I start thinking that I am not ready to win, and you know what, that’s a LIE!
We are all destined for greatness and deserve to win. Winning is something that we should not fear. Neither is prosperity. We always associate wealthy with evil and poor with good. And that is not true! It is possible for you to be a good wealthy person. Or an influential, prosperous person. You have to believe in yourself and believe that you are worth it… ALL OF IT!
Here are some great tips from PsychCentral.com:
- Consciously take responsibility for your life. When you set out to do something, write it down and take responsibility for it. Adopt a goal-oriented life philosophy: that it’s not about what you do (amount of hours you spend at work), but what you achieve (number of patients you helped). That way you give your excuses less grip on the amount of effort you put into what you do.
- Identify your defense mechanism. Those of you who are frequent readers of Psych Central might have come across an excellent article about common defense mechanismsby John Grohol, PsyD. Look at the list and watch what you say to yourself to justify your self-sabotage. We all have a few favorites.Identification is a powerful psychological mechanism to help you conquer the subconscious habits you engage in. To defeat an enemy, you must first know who you are dealing with.
- Change your perception of your abilities. A 2007 study by social psychologist Jason Plaks found that people who view their abilities as fixed were more likely to be anxious when they face dramatic success, causing them to perform worse in subsequent tests.
Once you begin to understand how our complicated mind works, you can start to identify certain behaviors for what the truly are and fix them!
Candace M. Braddock Let’s Win Together!!
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